The expression ‘Self-Esteem’ was
first used by American psychologist and philosopher, William James, in 1890. He
viewed self esteem as ‘one’s mental perception of (his) qualities, not physical
features.
There are various definitions of self esteem,
but in essence, it is the value we place on ourselves as individuals and in
relation to others. Literally, your self esteem is the esteem in
which you hold yourself
We can measure our
self-esteem as confirmed by Maurice Rosenberg. If our self esteem is too low, it
means we see ourselves as less valuable than those around us.
So we are encouraged to
improve our self-esteem in order to become more confident, happier, and better able
to lead a full and rewarding life.
If our self-esteem is too
high, we are probably suffering from ‘unearned’ esteem, and see ourselves as
better than those around us. This has been associated with bullying, violence
and aggression to others.
Our goal is to achieve the right
level of self-esteem that is not dependent on individual events or achievement.
A balanced and healthy level of self-esteem is one that shows respect for ourselves
and respect for others.
A good and healthy level of
self esteem will enable us to:
·
maintain calm, rational thought processes and
behavior.
·
cope
with disappointments and criticisms;
·
attempt
new challenges;
·
seek
out new relationships,
·
avoid defensive, aggressive, bombastic or nervous
tendencies;
·
work
towards our futures with a level of confidence and belief in our abilities.
So in order to achieve the
benefits of a healthy level of self-esteem, the following ways could prove very
helpful:
ü Use positive affirmations or
self-talk about who you are and what you can do. For example, say ‘I’m rich’, ‘I’m
healthy’, ‘I’m blessed and a blessing’, ‘I can do all things through Christ who
strengthens me’, ‘I have an ageless body’, ‘I have a timeless mind’, ‘I’m
making a lot of money’, etc.
ü Feed your body with hygienically
rich foods. Feed your mind with inspirational and motivational materials.
Feed your spirit with the Word of God.
ü Drink lot of water to keep your
body alive.
ü Exercise: Take a walk. Swim
if you can. Jog some miles. Stretch at the gym or anywhere else, even your
bathroom. etc
ü Smile! Even when you do not feel
like it. Smile to yourself. Smile when you come in contact with others. And watch
your self-esteem grow!
ü When attending in a group event
or meeting, try to stand or sit in front.
ü Nurture an attitude of
gratitude. A good habit for your self-esteem is to be grateful for at least one
thing every day. Be grateful you can breathe. Be grateful for every part of
your body. Be grateful you have a strong God. Gratitude is the secret to
receiving more out of life. Being grateful means that every day is your
birthday!
ü Dress purposely! Boost your
confidence as you wear your clothes every day. A neat appearance can literally
make our day!